I am writing on behalf of a friend who is desperate to help her 4 month old son but does not know how.

He cannot bear car rides. He cries & wails everytime he is put into his car seat, which is daily, since she has to make school runs for older children. Tears stream down his face the whole time. He can sit in his car seat so long as it is not in the car. There seems to be someing about the car which distresses him. He is a colicky baby, which made me wonder if it was something to do with the angle of his stomach, but because he can handle the seat when it is static, I wonder if this is relevant?

I presume surrogate tapping would be the thing to do, but I don't know how. Can someone help get me started by showing me a framework to use? I believe in EFT, but it seems I do not believe much in my own ability to use it! Here I am asking for help from something I know will work if done correctly!!!

I have researched this issue of car rides on babycenter.com & was horrified to read of so very many distraught mothers & babies who suffer acutely from this with no idea of how to solve it. These are otherwise healthy babies, many of them having no colicky symptoms. The best help was to be told: 'They eventually grow out of it". I find that unacceptable as a 'cure'. There has to be a reason for such pain - can anyone help me find out what it is & how to cure it? Babies this young only cry this way when they really mean it!

Sincerely,

Canda

Dear Canda

Sorry for the late reply to your post but I have only just read it.  I am sorry to hear that your friend is having problems when her baby rides in the car.  I find that surrogate tapping definitely works with my grandson but also he likes to have his back tapped along his spine.  Perhaps you or your friend could try this at night.  I know babies have to sleep on their backs now and not their fronts, but perhaps before bedtime, after his bath you could try this.  Just tap up and down either side of his spine gently while saying something like, "Even though I don't enjoy riding in the car in my seat, I am a good baby and Mummy & Daddy love me very much",  If you think that the colic is a problem too, you could try "Even though my tummy hurts when I am in my car seat etc".  As far as surrogate tapping is concerned, you can tap on yourself for the baby.  Simply by saying, "I am (name) and even though etc using the same words as above.  I would love to know how you get on.

PS Just had another thought - do you have a mirror in front of him for him to look into?  This reflection can be picked up in a mirror angled on the windscreen in front of the driver. This means that baby and driver can see each other - just a thought! (Try Bear-View Mirror)

Best wishes

Vikki 

Thankyou Vikki  for getting back to me.

Some time has passed since I posted this & the mother decided to place him in a forward facing seat, even though he was under 20lbs (he was nearing 18lbs I think) She was still distraught & needed to do something to ease the pain. This seemed to work for her.

I was disturbed to read on Babycentre.com just how many babies suffer so badly like this in the tender early months of their lives, it made me ache to find a voice for them. I personally still need to improve my confidence in EFT in order to feel I can step into help. But I am getting there!

Thankyou for the link to the mirror. I have a small one & because I live in the sunny Caribbean on an extremely hilly island, I was very concerned that the mirror not catch the sun as the car twisted up & down hill. I would love a bigger view of my own baby, but daren't attempt to trap so much of a panorama...maybe it can be angled down enough..I will have to think about that!

Thankyou again,

Candida