Overweight 9 year old

Last post 10-01-2008 7:56 AM by Rosa Maria. 2 replies.
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  • 09-30-2008 2:38 PM

    Overweight 9 year old

    My 9 year old son is extremely overweight. He is already 50 kilos. His father's family are all overweight, so it does have a little to do with his heritage. I am a single mother, a latin living in switzerland. My son has been rejected at school because of his weight, and this situation has made it very difficult for him to find real friends, so he prefers to stay home most of the time. he loves sports, but hates being alone doing them, and i don't have the time to play with him. We will be moving to my country of origin (Colombia) next year, and he is looking very much forward to this, I have the feeling he feels it would be like a new chance to intergrate. He is a very sensitive and loving boy, but his self esteem has been damaged.

    Could someone tell me where should I start with him, and how should I address these issues? I would be very thankfull for any tips.

  • 10-01-2008 1:31 AM In reply to

    • ChristineM
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    Re: Overweight 9 year old

    Hello Rosa Maria,

    Welcome to the forum. 

    Feeling isolated is damaging to anyone's self esteem and children are no different. I am sure that you are right when you say that his esteem has been affected. I will be happy to help you with how to start.

    Firstly and most importantly, Gather your evidence for how feels?  What does he say about how he feels?

    Looking for things like. What he feels inside?   What others say to him?  How that makes him feel?  How he'd like to be?. etc.

    These are only suggestions. It would be best if this type of fact finding comes from casual conversation from him rather than direct questions on the spot.

    Words he uses form the set up statements. Post back what he says and if you need help I will show you how to form a statement and where to take it. If he doesn't really talk easily then don't worry, we have to be more creative and use some other options. Let me know.

    There is likely to be many layers of feelings. Tapping is an excellent gentle way to rebalance at each stage.

    Do you tap? If so, does he watch, see the results? Is he interested?

    What are his interests? Knowing this type of info helps me to give you ideas about how to inspire his interest to feel differently.

    Surrogate tapping is another option which can help.

    Reading some of my other posts about tapping for all the family and surrogate tapping  and leading by example on this forum may also be good for you to read. If you can't locate them just let me know.

    I would love to think that your son is interested in the possibility of feeling different. Perhaps he may be interested in taking a look at the Zapping Zone on my website below which gives a broad idea of things that Children and Young People use EFT for. I am due to post some more children's feedback on there very shortly.

    Hope this is enough to get you started.

    Looking foraard to hearing back

    Christine

     

     

    Christine Moran
    Parent's Discussion co-moderator
    Bsc. Psy.
    Adv Prac EFT
    Practitioner of MBTI and NLP
    www.eftworld.co.uk - EFT for Children and Young People, Parents and Educators
    Author of the TAP with ME Programme - see website for details
    www.eftworking.co.uk - EFT for adults
    email me at contact@eftworking.co.uk
  • 10-01-2008 7:56 AM In reply to

    Re: Overweight 9 year old

    Hello Christine, I have sent you a mail explaining everything.

    Thank you, thank you very much!!!

    Rosa Maria.

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