Hello EFT4Kids,

I'm very interested and excited to begin using EFT for myself and my family.  I am just beginning to learn the points and process.  I'd like to learn how to share this for my nephew who is challenged with acid reflux and he is under weight and been labeled as failure to thrive.  Any recommendations on the basics around surrogate EFT tapping for toddlers and appropriate NLP to use with these kind of symptoms and issues would be most helpful.

 Thank you to anyone who can provide some help with this scenario.  

 -SWest

 Hi SWest,

Welcome to the EFT4Kids forum. I am glad you found this forum. Once you learn how to use the process for yourself, it is simple to teach others. If you can get your nephew to do it himself, that would be ideal. That way he will have the tool available to use on other issues that he may want help with. When someone is not old enough, or does not want to do it, then you can surrogate tap for them. You simply acknowledge the problem or negative emotion and you tap on your own points with him in mind. You always surrogate tap for someone's highest good. When I first learned EFT I found it amazing, and when I surrogate tapped for my kids, was amazed to see the changes that resulted. As you get comfortable with the process and start using it for yourself, your family, and nephew, you will see what I mean.

You can also search this site for other posts with "surrogate tapping" tags.

Feel free to return with any questions or to post your progress. 

Best wishes!

 Hi,

Sorry to hear about your nephew, and you are at the right place! EFT can help you and your family.

What I would recommend is surrogate tapping on yourself, as though you were your nephew. I have successfully used EFT with my 3 year old god daughter. Here is the story.

As Sue suggested, when you do it, you do it for your nephew's highest good. You don't even need to be with your nephew... You can pretend to be your nephew. You could say, "I am doing this for ___________'s highest good."

Then you want to imagine what the emotional issue could be... and just know that you can't do it wrong...

You set-up phrases could be, Even though:

•  I am having a hard time thriving, I am an awesome boy
• I am having a hard time keeping things down I am a good boy
  
• I am having a hard time being in this body, I am awesome
• I have had a hard time stomaching ____________, I am awesome anyway
  

You can imagine what this little fellow is going through. If something comes to mind, just make it into a set-up phrase. While you are saying the set-up phrase you are tapping on your karate chop point on the side of your hand.

Then you tap on the points on your body for your nephew. You want to say your reminder phrase which could be something like, "weak stomach" or_______________.

After you do a round of tapping you could do a round with statements like:

• this has been hard
• everybody is worried about me
• I haven't been able to get enough food to stay down
• something has been bothering me
• there has been something that I can't stomach
• they say I have failed to thrive
• I am under weight
• maybe something emotional is causing the acid reflux

Pay attention to your intuition while you are tapping, and see if anything comes into your mind. If something does, tap on that, too.

After you get all of the negative stuff out, and you have tapped on it, you can start saying some positive things while you are tapping like:

• I am Whole and Complete
• I choose to be a healthy little boy
• I choose to thrive
• I am healthy
• I am able to hold food down easily
• I am calm
• I am at peace
• everyone is seeing me as healthy
  

If you are around your nephew, and he lets you, you can tap on him. Maybe you can make a game out of it. Or you could show him where to tap on a teddy bear or a stuffed animal.

I just had another thought. You can also tap on yourself for any doubts you have about:

• not being able to do this right
• not knowing how to do it
• fears about doing it wrong
  

Stick with it!!! Know that you can make a difference.

Gratefully yours,

JoAnn

Thanks Jo Ann, great statements, Here is some feedback from a parent who felt desparate back in the summer months of this year.

UK Advanced Practitioner Christine Moran (and moderator on the eft4kids forum) was recently sent feedback from a client mum and daughter who wanted to share her experiences with other families who may feel stuck. Uncovering and clearing negative vibes for all involved was invaluable to help her beautiful baby with a severe food phobia. Many layers and aspects and stages where addressed in a number of sessions before baby was comfortable to feed orally for the first time in her life.

                          Helping a 13 month baby with a severe food phobia.