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Re: Grandchild with stealing problems.

Last post 01-30-2009 9:59 PM by Anonymous. 2 replies.
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  • 12-07-2008 5:28 AM

    Re: Grandchild with stealing problems.

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    I have an 8 year old grandchild that has a real problem with stealing and I am wondering if EFT can be an effective tool in dealing with this issue.  We have tried everything else we can think of to help with this issue, but the problem still exists.

     My grandchild has had a problem with taking things that don't belong to her for a couple of years now.  The most recent was stealing a bracelet from a classmate at school.  When we talk to her about it, she knows that it's wrong and that there will be consequenses for her actions, yet she continues.  She doesn't seem to have any remorse about what she has done, even after she has been caught.  We are at our wits end as to how to help this child and I am hoping someone else has had similiar experiences.

    Has anyone used EFT for this type of problem and was it effective?
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  • 12-09-2008 3:34 PM In reply to

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    Hi LilDebbi

    I haven’t used EFT with a child who has a problem with stealing, though I do have some thoughts as to how you may use EFT with this issue.

    EFT can be used to find and neutralize the reasons why she steals and the benefits she gets from stealing. What is the upside of stealing for her? What does she get out of it? Sometimes it’s the actual object, other times it may be the emotional rewards. By questioning her about what feels good about stealing you may find some beliefs to tap on and discover the real reason she is doing it. Asking from a place of love and acceptance can open up communication with her. Try to really listen to her experience of stealing, without judgment. This might mean that you tap on yourself first to clear your own feelings about her stealing. You may feel confused, frustrated, unable to comprehend her actions, at your wits end, feel like nothing works, ashamed etc. Tapping on yourself and your feelings first will help you be more present and attentive when talking to your granddaughter about the issue.

    You might ask her to tell you what stealing feels like. She may say things like, it’s thrilling, taking things make me feel better, stealing makes me feel accepted, stealing gets me noticed, I don’t want to stop, it’s the only way I can get what I want, I can’t stop, stealing is fun, etc. These are then the set ups you can use if you are tapping with her, or doing surrogate tapping on her behalf. Also if tapping with her, get her to focus on that feeling in her body (the physical impulse) that she gets just before she wants to steal something. Look for a core event that may have triggered the stealing. What was happening in her life when she started stealing? If there was a stressful event around the time she started stealing, tap on that event.  Tap on any current situations that may be causing her stress. There may be underlying anxieties that stealing helps to soothe.

    I hope this approach helps, let us know how you get on.

    Cheers

    Angie

     

    Angie Muccillo (BA, EFT- ADV)
    Advanced EFT Practitioner
    Remedial Massage Therapist
    Author of Tapping For Kids
    Melbourne, Australia

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  • 01-30-2009 9:59 PM In reply to

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