MY 11 year old daughter was traumatized in her early years. Lately she has been increasingly aggressive and

verbally abusive. I started doing eft with her two days ago after a big blow out. She is somewhat reluctant to do eft..but 

does comply. Today she had another major episode with screaming, yelling, banging, kicking, crying. I am wondering if eft sometimes

brings more emotion to the surface and if things get worse before they get better? 

Hello,

Welcome to the forum. EFT is an ideal tool for helping your daughter to remain calm and also approach the deeper feelings that are evident and hidden

Sometimes within an EFT session, tapping can bring emotions to the surface - when you hitting the triggers. This usually will happen when approaching the deeper levels and perhaps if this is happening then you may consider the help of an experienced and qualified children's EFT practitioner. That said in my years of experienced I have never encounted big physical outbursts in session.

Outside of session time, our minds are reprocessing and reframing our perspectives on areas we have tapped for. Changes happening here are almost without exception positive and safe. My guess would be is that there is more to do, with a careful and measured approach.

I would still encourage you to involve your daughter to tap, as a relaxation tool. It's a shame if you are finding your daughter reluctant to do eft. Ideally for eft to be really effective then they need to be open to the possibility for positive change and in a reasonably calm starting point.

Perhaps you may view previous post on introducing eft to the whole family and perhaps take the focus off her temporarily.

Let me know what you think. I may be able to help further.

Best Wishes

Christine

Christine..Thank you very much for your reply. I am and will continue to encourage my daughter to tap. She has the basic routine down and is quite good at it ...and we usually have a laugh. The times that she has been reluctant to do eft have been in moments when she is not calm.

I believe eft is a wonderful healing tool. I lead by example..and have asked my daughter to help ME think of sentences to tap for..ie..when I had a tummy ache...she suggested...Even though my tummy is sore and I am grouchy I am a great person. In this way I hope to spark her imagination so that she can see new ways to apply eft for herself.

The outburst did not actually come during tapping but it was a major freak out. And it seemed to me that (as you said) the eft we did the two days before had triggered buried deeper emotions. I would like to hear more about taking a careful and measured approach. It is my desire to help my daughter heal from past painful experiences. I will explore the posts in this forum about tapping for the family and surrogate tapping.

Thanks again. 

Hi Rawmama

Sounds like you are doing a wonderful job at modeling EFT. The more you do it the more it becomes an everday part of family life. This will increase her confidence and willingness to use it. You've probably got it covered but here is an article I wrote called "When Kids Won't Tap" http://tappingforkids.wordpress.com/2008/11/20/when-kids-wont-tap/ 

To help your daughter heal from past painful experiences you may like to study the "Tearless Trauma" http://www.emofree.com/tutorial/tutorqseventeen.htm  "Movie Technique" http://www.emofree.com/tutorial/tutorcthree.htm. and "Tell he Story Technique" http://www.emofree.com/tutorial/tutorltwelve.htm for helping you to develop a careful and measured approach. Also consider working with a practitioner in your local area if you feel you need the extra support.

Does she remember the traumatic events? Does she ever talk about them?

Let us how how you're progressing.

Cheers

Angie