Hi There, What a fantastic forum. My 12 year old son, recently is having some pretty strong and constant panic attacts. He has had a rotten school experiecne from the first day. His first school experiences were in many different contries, one of the worst was in Asia in a rural area where he was subjected to embaressment by standing on the table for a small mistakes, to capital punishments. We have moved back to Australia but his lack of trust in teachers have followed. Needless to say he is reading poorly at a 8 year old level (I know this is mostly emotional but do not know how to address this issue) so this has reduces his confidence. Last year he was at an Alternative school (supposed to help him with his creative and project orientated ability) which did him more harm in all his schooling. The bullies in the school were mercyless and the teacher worse still for not beliving him, when my son sought his help (taking the side of the bullies). This teacher reinforced his lact of trust in teacher. We have moved him into the State School which have been wonderful. He got the ocassional teasing but being the emotional wreck he is at the takes it all to heart. And at a recent indicident a teacher blatently lied to him. Well that was is. The tought of going to school just sends him into a panic attact. He would just breakdown crying when we step into the school. He has not been able to go to school for the last 4 weeks. We are looking into homeschooling and various other possiblities. He is a social boy with very high morals and values, he has not gotten into any mischievious activies and we think he is a Highly Sensitve type Person. This morning one of his friends rang when they found out that ds would not be going back to school and said that they would really miss him and school is not the same with out him. We have been to a psychologist and she has done EFT with him but It did not get very far. and I know EFT does work. I just need some suggestions on how to build up his trust so he does not socially isolate himself. Any suggetions would be most welcome.

Hi Corella,

 

I know it is very difficult for you to see your child suffering.  You mentioned seeing an psychologist where EFT didn't get very far.  In his situation, I believe it will require multiple sessions to really help, but what also came to mind is that there are many qualified people doing EFT and maybe trying a different practitioner will yield more positive results.  It's okay to shop around for the person that makes that connection with him.  In the meantime, I encourage you to download the information from the EFT site to learn how to do this yourself and use surrogate sessions where you identify problems he is having and you do the tapping for him.  He doesn't even have to be there with you and you can incorporate some statements that might be very difficult for him to say himself.  Knowing his history, you are in a perfect position to put yourself in his shoes and imagine what he must be feeling.  As you peel away the layers of distrust and disillusionment, he'll become more receptive to opening up to practitioners who can really get to some core issues that can set him free.  It's even possible that you will succeed in discovering some of these issues and your tapping will have amazing results.  Good luck.  I hope this information was helpful.  I use EFT on my children, my grandchildren, myself and my clients.  It's a wonderful tool.

 

Jane

Hi Jane, Thank you for your response. I will take on board what you have suggeted and am also looking for a Master practioner who would help. Much appreciated. Cheers Corella

Hello Corella,

I've just logged back onto this forum after a long period of absence and I came across your post. My heart went out to you and your son. It sounds very much like he has has had a rough time and no wonder he has trust issues. I like to know how you have got on now. I am an Advanced EFT practitioner with Psychology background,based in England. I have produced a song with actions for teaching kids tapping points and the ethos behind EFT. In fact my own children helped write the words and music. (Eric come we need to get it out there!) I work daily with troubled children with all sorts of isssues. There are many ways to try to introduce tapping to children whilst gaining their trust. He may be a bit old for the Tappy Bear ( a teddy with tapping points that children like to use to help with their problems). Sometimes I find that children like to know that they are not alone and I can help feel less awkward by showing them my children's tapping website www.eftworld.co.uk - the issues listed are the sorts that children experience and understand. Sometimes by giving them access to the web address is enough to get them interested to start. Click onto any of the issues and the child can request a powerpoint presentation that they can walk through themselves at home. There are suggested statements for them to use and ideas for exploring the issue more and also notes for parents as well.But the fact of the matter is that as your son's trust has been very much damaged that really is the starting point. It sounds like he should be given the opportunity to acknowledge this if it hasn't been already. Perhaps it's a great place to start tapping. For example - "I feel like I don't trust......., but I'm still a great kid".There will be many layers to the trust issue. Tapping for each aspect may take some time or as children can be very surprising once they get tapping the effects may generalise quite quickly. I love the empowering effect of tapping for children and all for issues large and small. Although I am far away I do telephone sessions on Skype(calls are free if you have Skype downloaded).