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help with bedwetting
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Tinka
  - Joined on 09-11-2007
- Posts 7
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BedwettingI would like to report you a case i had of an 11 years old boy that never had a wee free night. Like in your case , a very together young being, socially well engaged, a good student and healthy family status.I have asked the family to come to their home to present the techniques from energy medicine/Donna Eden and EFT So We can together start the process of re-examining bedwetting from a new perspective and with new tools to address it.As a preparation, I asked the Family to look together at few links I have found on the Internet showing children tapping and a presentation of energy exercises (it makes it cooler if it’s on youtube).I have started the session with a short presentation of energy work and its basic principles. We have learned altogether, the parents the young boy in question and his sister (nine years old), the basic recipe. I have announced that the young boy in question(let’s call him B/W) and I will retire to B/W’s room for a short private session.We went quickly together through the basic recipe, this time using a phrase: even though I pee in my bed I am beyond any doubts the best at being me, I am the only one that can be so perfect in being B/W (use ful name, birth date, address) and this is my room and this is my bed.Tapping through the points: peeing in bed.I directed his intention to the bed and asked him if this is where he pees and if you could still smell it. No matter what the answer is he was already engaged in the emotional experience through several senses. So we kept on tapping : even though this is the bed I wet every night, it is the bed of B/W that is so perfect and excellent in being B/W.Tapping through the points: this wetting of my bed.I asked him if he had any idea why he is wetting his bed. The answer was that he didn’t know . asked him to try and imagine a reason even if it’s just an imaginary one. He couldn’t. I asked him what he feels about that, angry, sad, frustrated etc. we managed to find situations where each one of the emotions was relevant, in any of the cases we spent one round of taping on that specific emotion. I suggested we go back and continue with the family. What I haven’t told you yet is that I invited my daughter ,10 years old experienced tapper, to join me for this visit. of course without her knowing the reason behind it, only that I want her to help me present EFT to this family. He agreed , while getting up I asked him if his younger sister knows about his bedwetting. He answered that yes. Then I asked if he really doesn’t mind to continue working on it with the family regardless of the fact that my daughter is present. He said that he does find it difficult, I asked why? he answered that he is afraid she will laugh at him. Bingo, we spend another 10 minutes working around shame embarrassment and fear of social isolation.Even though I’m afraid they will laugh at me, I’m afraid that nobody will want to sit next to me, I’m afraid they will call me names, I’m afraid nobody will want to be my friend, I always remember I’m special unique in my wonderful ability to be me the absolutely one and only B/W, that I’m excellent and beyond any doubt the best ever at being me.(I always alternate between the term ‘me’ and the full name)All that time he was tapping on himself. At that stage I asked for the permission to tab on him while he does a visualisation exercise. I started tapping through the points asking him to imagine himself asleep in bed than getting his sensation of needing to go to the toilet than imagining himself waking up stepping out of the bed walking to the toilet, having a pee and going back to bed to continue his sleep.After this exercise I asked him to continue tapping on himself and repeat the following affirmations: even though I do not know why I seen not to wake up to go to the toilet I choose to wake up when I need to go to the toilet. Tapping through the points:I can wake up to go to the toilet, it is more than possible from me to wake up to go to the toilet, it is easy for B/W to wake up and go to the toilet, It is great to wake up dry, I really enjoy waking up dry.Before we went back I have told him that I will not raise this issue when working with the family but if he would like to he will have the chance to do so in one of the exercises that I will do later on.Back with the family and my daughter, I asked each one of the present to choose a problem they would like to resolve. Without telling anyone what the problem is, we shall all together tap concentrating on our own issue: Even though I have this problem I’m brilliant in being me and I deeply and completely except and love myself as I am anyways.Tapping through the points: This problem of mineThen I asked to value between 0 and 10 how difficult it will be for them to share their problems with the group, when 0 represents I have no problem at all and 10 no way, over my dead body. We slowly tapped everybody to a zero, by tapping: even though I (still) find it difficult to share this problem I’m brilliant in being me and I deeply and completely except and love myself as I am anyways.Then before they actually share the problem I asked them to choose a card from the deck of cards I found on the table then put all the cards in a black plastic bag. I will draw one card out of the bag , the person whose card it is will share his problem. Just before taking my hand out of the bag I asked everybody to examine the level between 0 and 10 of and the option of sharing the problem imagining that it is their card I am holding in my hand. The levels went right up. We spend again sometime bringing them down. Then I put the bag aside and asked the mother to share her problem.The issue is not relevant, what is more important is that we altogether tapped on her problem until she found relief.By then, about an hour and a half later, I was satisfied that everybody understands the principle and the usage of the basic recipe. I thanked everybody for their corporation and invited the parents to have a short conversation apart from the children. I have asked them to encourage him to tap any time an issue comes up,the even if it doesn’t look relevant to the bedwetting. Every night before going to sleep to go through one tapping round about the worry and the fear of wetting the bed again. then a round about the possibility of a dry night.I have also delegated to them a copy of a text I took out from the book ‘messages from the body’/Michael J. Lincoln :
BED-WETTING; "PEEING IN THEIR PANTS"
"In over their head." They are feeling rejection and unworthiness, insecurity and fear of the
future. There is a sense of the inability to control their situation and/or reactions. They have a great
deal of anxiety concerning the requirements of the world, as it was passed on and represented by
their father, usually. There is a lot of competence-anxiety, self-distrust and fear ofthe Universe.
It is a father-phobia generated by a lack of compassion and understanding on their father's
part, or as a function of the family and the surrounding culture originally, and perhaps also in their
current circumstances. And suggested they will tap for themselves on any issue that might rise from reading that information.Three days later I got an enthusiastic e-mail from the mother telling me that her son just had his first weefree night.My best wishesAurel
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practitionermod2
  - Joined on 05-28-2007
- Posts 68
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Thank you for sharing your experience. I have also seen cases where embarrassment and fear are the most intense issues. Many children struggle the most when they are invited to spend the night with a friend. Addressing these emotions, as well as lack of control are key.
Please report back on B/W's results.
Keep tapping,
Sue Busen
Author of Tap into Joy: A Guide to Emotional Freedom Techniques for Kids and Their Parents,
Tap into Success: A Guide to Thriving in College Using Emotional Freedom Techniques,
and Good Vibes: 48 Tips to Raise Your Vibration
www.TapIntoBalance.com
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