Help.  I am grandma looking for help for my grand daughter. She is one of twin girls, 5 years old. She has frequent night terrors.  She also has waking rages.  Twice i have used the set up phrase without any tapping saying "even though you are having difficulty calming yourself down, i love you and you are a great kid"  This has had an immediate effect in calming her. But, i am not there for the night terrors.  My daughter describes it as lasting for hours and many times each week.  I think these two episodes has gotten the attention of the skeptic in mommy and daddy.  If there are any suggestions for me from this community i would love to hear them.

 Renee

Renee, thank you for sharing your own success with us. I'm sure some of our professionals can help you with your question. I'll only add that as with every childhood issue you want to include your own and the parents and other familiy members part in treating this issue with your granddaughter. Any negative or concerned emotions and reactions of the familiy members are certainly contributing to the granddaughter's anxiety and likely her night terrors. Try working with or surrogately tapping on the  parents and siblings to bring more calm and acceptance to this aspect of your granddaughter's life. As we've been learning in treating veterans with PTSD, negative labels stigmatize the subject to feel diseased. Find language to work on this that are positive and encouraging just as you did with the calming phrase

Answers to this will likely help many concerned parents and family members, so I encourage an active thread on this topic.Share your experiences or ask more questions. Help and guidance is here.

Thank you Eric,

 I completely agree with you about working with whole family.  I can see how the resistance from mommy and daddy contributes to the trauma of the bedtime routine.  It is as though a there is an underlying fear when bedtime routine begins.  God forbid anyone forgets the water, the special blanket, the endless catering to every form of procrastination and stalling.  I think the family is afraid of her at bedtime. This is a time when she most often is set off on in rages.  The night terrors are different.  She isn't awake, she is clearly asleep, but in a terror nightmare that lasts for hours.

 I had a conversation with my daughter about her level of acceptance of the way it is. We talked about the fear she has that she will never get the rest she needs. We talked about the possibility that her resistance contributes to the undesired situation.  I think she was surprised to hear that i recalled the same feeling that i would die of exhaustion.  I survived and now get all the sleep i want now with my empty nest.

 I was considering using a stuffed bear with my grand daughter for tapping and bring up these nightmares.  What do you think about that?

Renee

dear Renee

it is lovely to have a concern loving grandparent, brings us back to the importance of the good old large family structure that our ancestors enjoyed.

Trust your intuition, if you go to sleep and wake up to a round of tapping saying: even though I'm not sure what is the solution I deeply and completely except and love myself and I open myself to the possibility of receiving and recognizing the solution inside myself. Tapping through the point- no solution, can not find my solution, the fear of no solution, the right solution, do I have the solution, no i don't, yes i do,

we have to remember that children experience  reality in a level we have, as adults, buried deeply under heaps of conceptual dust. They come in contact with levels of energy that we the parents have to retrain ourselves and open up to new possibilities.

In the case of night terror and night rage I have worked first with a mother on the issues relating in her to that phenomena, at a second stage I have exercised with her different techniques for surrogate tapping to in power her in a moment of desperation feelings of helplessness that I usually find with parental issues related to a poor ability to communicate and identify the source for a childs behaviour.

I have also suggested to the mother to share the information with the father of the child and try the tapping into dreams that I have used on my father. I have a detailed report of the specific events which I can send you if you are interested to your personal e-mail. In short it is quite simple it involves one of the parents staying awake next to the child's bed reading the signs of an upsetting dream building up, if the child is not sensitive to the touch in the way that he will wake up if gently tapped on, simply tap through the point starting at the head and going downwards the available points without changing the position of the sleeping child. If the child is sensitive to the tapping in the sense that he wakes up, you gently put your hand without pressure on the back of the head and the other on the forehead and leave your hands again without pressure in that position until the child shows signs of regular breathing and general relaxation. If that too wakes up the child. I recommend exploring the possibilities offered by the book energy medicine by Donna Eden. One is chakra clearing. Citing the cat in the Hat "there is another trick that I know", make with one or both hands large eight-forme movements, it will encourage harmonious flow of the Energies of the sleeping child.

And last I will like you to watch this programme from the Dutch television called (I translate) the child's wish is law. It is in English with some Dutch commentaries, don't be discouraged and try to watch all the chapters, it's about 30 minutes, dealing with the childs fears and rage.  Open Internet  and log on to youtube. In the search engine copy and paste the following information (one by one):

Derek Ogilvie Seizoen 1 Aflevering 5 deel 2/5

Derek Ogilvie Seizoen 1 Aflevering 5 deel 3/5

Derek Ogilvie Seizoen 1 Aflevering 7 deel 3/4

 Derek Ogilvie Seizoen 1 Aflevering 3 deel 2/5

Derek Ogilvie Seizoen 1 Aflevering 3 deel 3/5

keep your mind and heart open to all possibilities it can have a great impact to the person your grandchild will become.

all my best wishes

Aurel

Hi, I am fairly new to EFT.  I have recently started using it to help my clients release negative beliefs to enable them to use Law of Attraction more effectively.  I have used EFT a great deal with my 8 year old son and find it highly effective (and he loves it).  I'm pleased to say he hasn't needed me to use EFT for night terrors, however I have used it for myself as I had a very bad night terror a few nights ago.

I would suggest that you work with your granddaughter and daughter (let your daughter tap on your granddaughter as you tap on a teddy bear).  Tap away the feelings your granddaughter has when she thinks about night terrors.  Then if she continues to have them yor daughter can gently rub on the tapping spots whilst talking calmly to her until she goes back to sleep. 

I think the main thing is to work on the issue during the day in order to eliminate at night and if they do happen calm by tapping or rubbing gently.

Also, by using a  teddy your daughter will also build confidence in using EFT too.

I really hope this helps.  Night terrors are not a good thing at any age.

If I can be of more help please email me free wendy@sunshine-coaching.com

Wendy

P.S. My son has a special tapping bear which we use daily, mainly at bedtime.  He likes to tell his special bear all about his day, good and bad.  This is a fantastic way to release any negative feelings before sleep.

Thank you so much for your deep and thoughtful response.  I will do as you ask to tap on the anxiety i have around not having a solution through opening myself to receive solutions. And i have already started watching the videos.  thank you very much,

 Renee