Hello everyone. I just wanted to share a story that may help someone else. This time last year, we nearly lost our daughter through attempted suicide. She was only saved because her older brother noticed something funny about her and didn't let her go up to bed as she planned. I was ill in bed. Her dad took her to A&E just in time and she was rushed to the Intensive Care Unit in London, because our local hospital didn't have the facilities to help her. I learnt EFT and have my certificates in it, but what I would like to share is, that no matter how qualified you are in your profession, unless a person wants to be helped there is nothing you can do. I had such a major problem with this at the beginning. I couldn't even bring myself to use EFT on myself. I felt so bad! There was I, helping other people and I couldn't even help my own daughter! We stayed with her in the hospital for a week and just watching her on the machines, breathing, I felt my heart would break. This was my fault. If only I hadn't been such a crap mum! So many tappable issues. We can talk about it all now. First of all i EFT'd myself to clear these issues, so my energy system would be clearer to help my daughter. She is still resistant to tapping, but occassionally when things get really unbearable, she comes to me and asks for help. She doesn't tell me whats going on in her head, so I use my intuition and see myself as her, and most of the time, I am saying something "right" because she just laughs and says she cant even think a bout it anymore. I thank God and EFT every single day. No matter how many therapists she has been to, nothing helps her as EFT does. So for any parents I would say: Do not blame yourself, you are doing the best you can - be patient - remember to laugh, even when you feel theres nothing to laugh at - try not to blame each other- everyone is doing the best that they can and NOTHING WILL ALWAYS REMAIN THE SAME. YOU CANNOT FORCE SOMEONE TO LET YOU HELP THEM, EVEN THOUGH YOU KNOW IT WORKS. Everybody has their own journey to travel and as painful and hard as it seems at times, we have to standby and when we are asked for directions, can we give them. It is not anything against us personally. With love, light and blessings to you all

Emily,

Great advice. Thank you for sharing your insights.  It is often most difficult for us to work on ourselves and our families while we help so many others.  You couldn't have said it better!  Sometimes when our children resist EFT, all we can do is use our intuition and tap for them surrogately.  It always helps get them through a crisis!

Emily,

What a heart touching piece you've written. I think I am safe in writing that you have pulled the heart strings of a parent who reads this piece. Your advice is invaluable, as parents we all need to read it again. You are writing from a place of wisdom.

On the subject of not tapping and your daughter's resisitance to talking about issues you are obvoiusly not alone in that one. When I work with troubled teenagers as I often do, I usually find that they do want help but put up these impossible barriers that they have no idea how to break down. It's not so much that they are reluctant to talk and tap, it's usually a case of those type of emotions like embarrasment, shame, guilt,etc being too overwhelming. A method I find invaluable is to use my 'Access' cards to help teenagers convey how they are feeling and where they are at. Using careful prompts, I am given just enough information to begin to understand the current feelings they are having. It's quite a silent process usually. Teenagers like it as it is a silent portal into understanding and an opportunity to gain trust with them. Usually the tapping process flows naturally just setting up some phrases even it begins only with sketchy inforamation. I usually find that they correct me and fill in the gaps if I move in the wrong direction. It is teenagers we are talking about.

You can create you own cards are contact me for more details.

In the meantime, I would like to thank you for waking my heart with the sentiments of your message.

Blessings to you and your daughter.

Christine Moran

EFT Adv Prac

01494 766758

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