Hi, My wife and I have two beautiful children, a boy of 8 and a girl who turned 10 today. She is the most beautiful girl in her caring nature and is very talented at speech and drama and the keyboard.

Since the day she was born she has been a terrible sleeper. Everynight she would wake and start crying.(this is normal of some newborns) of course we had medical checks and everything seemed  okay. After she had finished *** and bottle feeding things did not change. We were told she probably had collich and this was the reason for her being unsettled.

To this day she will not sleep in her own bed. My wife or myself have to be at the office desk outside her room for her to get to sleep initially, if we are not there she will not go to sleep. Once asleep that will last for about 2 -3 hours. She will then come in and not go to sleep in her room unless one of us lies with her.  Don't worry for six months I took her back continuously to try and break the habit. 3 - 5 times per night did not make an impression on her sleeping pattern. I honestly thought I could break her habit but all it did was totally wear me out mentally and physically.

To not unsettle the night my wife will go back and sleep with her now and she is very settled till the morning. We could continue this but feel this is not right for the long run. I cannot sleep if she is in the bed with us. Our son is asleep 20 seconds after it hits the pillow and stays there till the morning.  We have done a course at Uni to help her sleeping problem but to no avail. 

I must say that it has put a bit of stress on our marriage and that can put a whole new perspective on it too. We would love a whole nights sleep and are sick of being tired and cranky. Thanks for listening

Hi Chrism

 I really feel for you all.  It must be dreadful to have such disturbed nights all of the time.

• What sort of pregnancy did your wife have with your daughter?
• Has she ever expressed a reason for not sleeping well or not wanting to sleep on her own? 
• Is she scared of the dark? 
• Does she feel insecure about something?

 I guess for a start you could just try a general set-up of:

 “Even though I can’t sleep on my own, I love and accept myself, and Mum & Dad love me very much”.

 I think perhaps that your thought that this has become a habit of hers is probably right as it has been going on for such a long time.

 It would be good to have some more details to work on.

 Hope to hear from you soon.

 Kind regards

Vikki Davison

Hi Vikki and thank you for your comments. I remember in her very early years, say 1 year old and on, I would call in to get some fuel (she would be in her capsule / car seat ) and after refueling the car I would proceed to pay for the fuel. She would become hysterical the further away I became from the vehicle. Even later when she had her younger brother beside her in the car she would still become hysterical. Its only the last couple of years refueling has become not such an issue.

You mentioned is she scared of the dark and she is. Not an issue if my wife or myself are present, maybe its the unknown quantity but for her to go upstairs on her own with the lights off is not really possible.

I admit I do not know much about EFT and only stumbled accross it while on the net one night, but it does sound very interesting. How and what do I do to instigate the EFT. Send for the DVD's? is it that simple? we are willing to try anything. She is also a very sensitive child, the pregnancy was not a problem and both our children were elective ceasers. In the womb she was a very busy girl and just before she was born the doctors were amazed at the movement in my wifes stomach. She really wanted to get out of there. Is also very concerned for other people, if anyone is injured she is genuinely concerned for there welfare. Thanks again

Chris

 Hi Chris

I think the first place to start is for you to download the free EFT Manual.  This will give you more information and tell you how to set up statements for your daughter.  Go to www.emofree.com and click on "download manual for free". 

Your daughter obviously has a separation anxiety.  You could use the set up phrases:

Karate Chop Point: Even though Mum & Dad aren't right next to me when I want them, I am a good girl, Mum & Dad love me very much

Top of Head: Mum & Dad aren't here

Eyebrow: I need them here now

Side of eye: I can't cope without them

Under eye: I need them both

Under nose: Don't want to be on my own

Chin: Need Mum & Dad with me

Collarbone: Can't be on my own

Under arm: Want Mum & Dad with me

Karate Chop Point: Even though I want Mum & Dad with me all the time, I am an awesome girl, and my brother and family love me

Top of Head: Mum & Dad aren't here

Eyebrow: I might be OK on my own

Side of eye: Mum & Dad aren't here

Under eye: I might be OK on my own

Under nose: Mum & Dad aren't here

Chin: I might be OK on my own

Collarbone: Mum & Dad aren't here

Under arm: I might be OK on my own

Top of Head: Mum & Dad aren't here

Eyebrow: I will be OK on my own

Side of eye: Mum & Dad aren't here

Under eye: I know I will be OK 

Under nose: Mum & Dad aren't here

Chin: I can cope on my own

Collarbone: Mum & Dad aren't here

Under arm: I will be fine on my own 

Perhaps you could try these and see how you get on.

Best wishes

Vikki

Hello Chris,

Your frustration and concern for your daughter comes through loud and clear.  How fortunate that you stumbled upon EFT and you are open to the possibilities.  I truly believe that EFT will be of great benefit for your daughter and the whole family.

I agree that the place to start is downloading Gary Craig's free manual. There are several books for EFT and children available -- go to the bookstore at www.emofree.com and check it out.

That said, I believe that the help of an experienced EFT Practitioner would be in order to get the family on track.  I have said this before and I will say it again.  When the parents are an integral part of the issue, it is often difficult to faciltate the solution without some third party assistance.  If you cannot find a practitioner nearby, many offer phone sessions.

In the meantime, follow the suggestions that have been given to you.  Perhaps begin by using EFT on less highly charged issues.

I hope this helps.