Practitioner's Discussion

Suggestions for kid's workshop

schicae2 — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 21:03:06 GMT

Hi,

I was just asked by a local Performing Arts center to do a workshop for parents and their children. I'm going to entitle it "Empowering your child". I can easily work with individuals on issues, but was hoping to do tapping for everyone.

Can anyone suggest a format or some ideas for simple tapping exercises or approaches that I can do with everyone? The children will vary in age from 5-12 probably.

Thanks.
Ed

surrogate tapping

Mark G — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 16:21:06 GMT

If anyone has had success with surrogate tapping, especially for children with autism, please get in touch. I am new to EFT and interested in applying it to children with communication difficulties, especially those on the autistic spectrum.

Thank you,

Mark G

surrogate tapping and autism

Mark G — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 17:21:21 GMT

I am a pediatrician and relatively new to EFT, as I have been mostly practicing the technique on myself. I am interested in attempting surrogate tapping on those with communication difficulties, such as those on the autistic spectrum. Could someone assist in talking me through the steps of surrogate tapping for autistic children, perhaps focusing on a way to calm or open channels for communication ?

help with bedwetting

DonC — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 15:48:45 GMT

My client is an 8 y/o boy. He regularly wets his bed at night. He is a very physically active with hocky and other high energy sports. His parents state that he sleeps very deeply, He is unwilling to go to sleepovers with his peeers due to wearing "pullups" to bed. He is a good student and seems to be well adjusted with numerous friends. His pediatrician recommends Hyppnotherapy. I am thinking that EFT is more efficient. I would appreciate imput for anyone who has had success in this area.

Thanks

Exam anxiety

mindxb — Mon, 18 May 2009 11:52:29 GMT

Hi There

Does anyone have specific experience with 15-18 year olds studying and preparing for their important exams... especially stress about taking the exam and what they will do if they don't make the grade and miss out on the chance of joining their favourite university.

Thanks and Regards

Collecting support data

p4paul — Mon, 20 Apr 2009 05:58:05 GMT

Hello...

Wondering if anyone out there has taken a empirical approach to working with children and teenagers? I work with children, teenagers and families as a psychologist, and I am interested in establishing an argument that is founded on empirical data to use in schools and youth organisations.

I am thinking that there would be a much better opportunity for schools, community organisations, and government agencies to consider the use of Energy Psychology and especially EFT if they had hard data from working with children and young people.

with thanks,

Paul Dunne

EFT for night terrors in a 5 year old

Catalyst — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 17:45:25 GMT

Has anyone any help for applying eft in the case of a nearly five year old who has about 1-2 episodes per week?

These are not recalled by her.

Thank you

My daughter is always sick or injured

runnergirl — Thu, 12 Feb 2009 13:56:38 GMT

My daughter (teenager) has been manifesting illnesses and injuries for years. I am aware of the emotional underlying issue. I h ave been tapping for her (occasionally she taps for herself) but I am having little success. Can her payoff for being sick over ride my tapping? How can I help her move past the pay off? thanks, runnergirl

EFT from what age

Didry — Thu, 22 Jan 2009 11:36:14 GMT

Hello, I read about using EFT on children but is there any required age it shouldn't be use if the child is under it?

I read something about above 5 years. Is there any harms EFT may cause to younger children?

Just learned about EFT, would like an example for helping (surrogate) nephew 17 months with acid reflux; failure to thrive

swest — Wed, 12 Nov 2008 22:29:10 GMT

Hello EFT4Kids,

I'm very interested and excited to begin using EFT for myself and my family. I am just beginning to learn the points and process. I'd like to learn how to share this for my nephew who is challenged with acid reflux and he is under weight and been labeled as failure to thrive. Any recommendations on the basics around surrogate EFT tapping for toddlers and appropriate NLP to use with these kind of symptoms and issues would be most helpful.

Thank you to anyone who can provide some help with this scenario.

-SWest

child with dissociation from pain

imajwru — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 03:40:57 GMT

I have a 7 year old with severe hx of abuse/inflicted scaldings/neglect by bio mother......who is dissociating from pain. He dropped a large piece of metal on his foot. Looks like he is going to lose his big toenail and doesnt have any pain associated with it. Is telling the doctor "its not that bad". Toe is black. He went to school today and his teacher accidentally stepped on the effected foot resulting in some blood spurting. Again, this 7 year old now tells the teacher, "dont worry about it, its not that bad" and has no facial signs that he is in any pain whatsoever. Grandparents are raising this child (and his brother who was even more traumatized). We are now just noticing this lack of pain as child has not been injured since being reunited with grandparents. Obviously this child has learned to separate from pain starting from his late infancy to when he was 'saved' from his mother at age 2.

Any suggestions on where to start? He knows how to use EFT and I incorporate this in treatment. This child is also acting out in school and is in an alternative school already due to violence towards others. He does not appear to understand how his actions can cause others pain, nor does he feel pain himself.

Appreciate any feedback.

imajwru, LCSW

Growth Hormone deficency due to radiation

Umesh D — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 10:56:43 GMT

Hello Sir,

I need your help in understanding how EFT can be useful for the growth of my child. My son is 10 and a half years old. When he was three, he was diagnosed with embroynal rabdomayo scarmo of nasphyrinx, a type of cancer. That time he was treated with chemo & rediation thraphy. Now he is completely cured and healthy.

From last one year we have observed that his growth (physical) is not in line with his age. Doctor says his pitutary gland may be affected due to radiation and hence is not secreating growth hormones. Kindly educate us how EFT can be of help to him. Also, radiation exposed parts like nose, gums, teeth roots and jaw are not growing properly. The new teeth which are errupting do not have roots.

Please help.

Thanks & Regards,

Umesh Deshmukh

Selective Mutism

Lorraine Debnam — Sun, 29 Jun 2008 20:37:47 GMT

Hi,

Has anyone tried working with the rather subborn difficulty of selective mutism (seective talker really) Its often linked to Autism, but not always and has many origins. Most of my work is initially passed onto Speech and Language Therapist who take a long time but have a lot of success in the under 8 year group, but once the kids are in senior school there is little that can be offered. We seem to have come to a grinding halt in the UK, well stafforshire for kids over about 10 or 11 years.

I guess it would have to be a story tapping or maybe with me speaking the step-up and the first full menu and then they young girl I'm thinking of going home and doing at with her parents.?

Any ideas please

Lorraine

Help with my stuttering 4 years old grand daughter

Irit — Sat, 23 Jun 2007 06:02:50 GMT

Dear Practitioners,

my granddaughter, 4years and 2 months old, has started stuttering about a year ago and it is getting worse. Actually I think she never got to speaking fluently (like her older sister, nearly seven years old). She is a lovely and very loveable kid. Especially empathic for her age, shows much love and is a pleasure to be with. She is aware of her stuttering - recently said to me: "you know grandma - I stutter". I have tried surrogate EFT to no avail. She is going to have a new brother born in September. She asked me twice who I loved more - her or her sister. As to her coming brother she expressed pleasure at not being the smallest in the family any more. I worry about the kids in the kinder garden laughing at her and woud like very much to help her. Please feel free to suggest anything, including for me to tap on my worry! I love her so much! Thanks for advance for any suggestion.

By the way, I am an EFT practitioner myself, a social worker, having great results with EFT, yet never so far succeeded with surrogate tapping.

Irit

EFT for children in hospital settings

Eric — Mon, 21 Jul 2008 20:14:38 GMT

I just returned from filming the work of EFT practitioner Deborah Miller at a pediatric oncology clinic in Oaxaca, Mexico. Her results are simply astounding and needed to be brought to the health care community. Scenes from that work will be made available soon on the eft4Kids! web site and elsewhere, but I have also asked Deborah to share some of her thoughts on working with children, parents and staff in pediatric care settings and we an all look forward to her first hand experience and knowledge in upcoming posts.

One of the my goals in starting these discussion groups was to create a space for working professionals to share their experience in order to teach others in yuor fields who might not yet realize that EFT can be a compliment to their existing tools. I invite anyone who has worked with children in an official or unofficial capacity as part of a health care, educational or other setting to share your experiences. If you feel you have a story that could also be filmed, please contact me as we are seeking more first hand examples of EFT at use in the field.

Be well,

Eric

chld asking for washing hands egularly

deepak26101973 — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 01:56:52 GMT

my son is 5 yrs old,suddenly he had started asking for washing hands,regulary for no reasons, for example,he asks to wash hands after touching t-shirts of his own,pants (wearing),or his own hairs,he asks this 4-5 times every hour.we r worried b cos these r symptoms for ocd(obessive compulsive disorder)?????

i request you to help in this regard,and tell me how to do EFT for him.I m based in mangalore india.

4 month old infant with eczema

Lynna62 — Tue, 13 May 2008 00:04:17 GMT

Looking for some advice as to how to deal with this. I have worked with this mom & infant successfully before for sleep issues but I'm not sure how to proceed with this one. I plan to start with clearing mom for her stress and anxiety. These were her words to me (names deleted to maintain privacy):

"________ has eczema on all parts of his body. I've been very troubled by it. I know it bothers him. He has had restless sleep and discontentment during the day. I gave in and started using a cortisone cream much to my dismay. I didn't realize how bad he must have felt until he started feeling better. I have cut out wheat, dairy, and nuts from my diet to find a possible trigger. I went through this with (his sister), but hers wasn't nearly as bad as his. As a mom and a control freak I'm having trouble accepting I may not be able to help him without medicine.

Lots of clues here as to how to proceed with Mom...............just not sure how to handle the infant. I would appreciate any suggestions.

Love & Light,

Lynna

Working with ADHD +menthaly disabled children

takacspeter — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 21:00:16 GMT

According to Don Blackerby the first step to start with ADD or ADHD children to help them to concentrate. Otherwise the sessions will be more struggle . He is absolutely right- how I usulally start with these kind of kids is to find out, what makes them deconcentrated so easily. I use NLP for that part. Then after I can start working with them. Even this is not always so easy.

Recently I got a girl 10 years old who has all the sympthoms of ADHD + can not read and write hardly at all. The doctors said she was menthaly slightly disabled.

My question is: Had anyone such a child? How she/he dealt with her/him? We get along well each other, but she is ok for tapping only for 5-sec-30 sec. Than she can not pay attention at all. When she is at the session we play, we have fun, but sometimes she gets bored very easily. How can help to teach her to concentrate, when she is not able to answer for my qouestions?

I am aware that is a long run. I keep tapping...

I am couriously waiting for your ideas. (My message may not be a proper English- sorry- I am a Hungarian EFT Practitioner:)

Peter

Night Terrors

practitionermod1 — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 23:44:49 GMT

Hello All,

A colleague asked me about her 5 year-old nephew who began awakening 5 out of 7 nights with night terrors. He screams for 15 minutes and finally settles down. I have little background info other than it started a year ago with the only, apparent, change being that he now sleeps in bunk beds and prefers the top bunk. Any suggestions? I will not be working with this child, however, I would like to pass along a variety of ideas.

6 month year old sleeping issues

Micky Rogers — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 16:27:30 GMT

HI there! I've been working with a girl and her 6 month old baby on his sleeping issues. Up until he was 3.5 months old, he was an excellent sleeper. Then he had a bout with gallstones and they removed his gallbladder. About 2-3 weeks after that, he started having some major issues with sleep. They need to rock him to sleep and once he's good and out (about an hour of rocking), they lay him in his crib. He continues to wake through the night about every half hour to an hour. Once they pick him up and rock him he settles back in. The first night I tapped on him, he slept for 5 hours..but the last two nights have been not very good. Rocking him didn't help at all last night, he was up for 2 hours in the night. The mom is exhausted as is the dad so their stress levels are very high. I did some tapping on mom before we tapped on the baby and we cleared alot of stuff for her. We have more to tap on, surrounding her emotions about his surgery. She remembers thinking, as they took the baby away for surgery, that she may never get to hold her baby again. Then when he woke up, she said she just wanted to hold him forever. We did not tap on that yet as we just talked about that on my way out the door the first night after 11. I am going back over tonight to work on some more stuff, but I am wondering if anyone has any success with this kind of issue. I know the mom has continued to tap on him since I left and I've done some surrogate here from home....but we're just not successful yet...any suggestions would be most helpful!!

On a good note, another reason I went over is that they suspected a hernia. He had a lump in his groin and testicle. I did some tapping on that and now the mom can't find it. They have an appt with the doctor this afternoon to go over the results of the ultrasound, but the parents can't find the lump now. good stuff.....M

9 yr. old Recovering from Abuse and Neglect

Mary Hammond MA LPC — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 06:42:25 GMT

Hi All I am writing this to give anyone who needs it hope that we can help children heal from the worst. This kind of therapy used to take years, now it takes months. We are just beginning. This is our third session. J. is nine years old and has been with his adoptive parents for two years. He was abused in all ways, and abandoned and neglected by his addicted birth parents. His adoptive parents are devoted to his healing-- "helping him be normal" is their greatest wish. Although he acts out and is angry at home and at school, in the playroom where I do eft with kids his play is subdued and exhibits the underlying grief. When i sense that then we tap together regarding the grief. The other day his adoptive mother joined us as he tapped, and he collapsed into an infant place-- the age when his birth mother left. His adoptive mother held him and i guided her to tap for him. He cried, she tapped, I breathed and prayed. He sat up, he cried again. He said, "I remember being four and R., my Dad's girlfriend, telling me that she was not my real Mom." Adoptive Mom tapped, and I held the sacred space. Toward the end of the session his energy and demeanor was still fragile. I said can you make a force field around you for you to feel safe. he closed his eyes and said he was making three forcefields. He was less angry the next week. We are continuing to work with the little ones within the forcefields. Feedback? We at EFT4 Kids prefer that you get the help of an EFT mental health professional to do regression work. Blessings, Mary Hammond MA LPC Salem Oregon

Hair Pulling

Barbara Paz — Wed, 30 Jan 2008 21:30:42 GMT

I have a 12 year female who has been pulling out her hair (trichitellamania) for over 6 months. I have already worked with her for 4 sessions and the results are only minor. Mostly we work on core issues which are acceptance issues, popularity, being different than others, etc. I have also given her "homework" to tap whenever she gets the urge the pull, but she doesn't tap between sessions. I also had her make a list of 50 things that bother her now or in the past with the instructions to tap on 1--2 issues a day. Sometimes she does, and sometimes she doesn't.

Does anyone have experience with tric for adolescents? I would appreciate any advice whatsoever.

Thank you so much for any help you can offer.

gratefully yours,

Barbara

smoking adolescents and kids

Martina — Fri, 07 Mar 2008 07:11:09 GMT

Dear list members,

I am a certified psychotherapist and EFT advanced practitioner working with children and adolescents in a childrens home. The kids are there for various reasons. One mayor problem is that some of them are addicted to cigarettes which gets them into trouble.

I have done some tapping with them but I find that their cravings go up instead of going down when they tap on their urge to smoke.

Now I would be very grateful for any ideas and suggestions on how to treat this problem effectively.

Thank´s a lot and much love from Germany

Martina

EFT with adolescents: any short cuts?

jwalker — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 15:22:54 GMT

I work as a counsellor in a school for adolescents. I have recently discovered EFT and find it really helpful. I have now started using here with the students. I find that many are responsive when I work with them. However, the more troubled, disorganised students find it really hard to use the full protocol and seem to give up using it. Hence I am trying to find some short cuts so that I can give them a couple of points to tap, depending on their issues.

Two main issues are anger management and ADHD. Anyone any ideas for keypoints to tap for these issues? Or other ideas of how to get adolescents to continue to use EFT?

Thanks

Jim

Complimentary therapy and children

Eric — Sat, 01 Dec 2007 13:43:37 GMT

With more licenced practitioners and other health care workers including children in their use of EFT and other energy therapies some legal ramifications come into play that are different from the rights and restricitions for working with adult clients.

The law is different in every jurisdiction indicating that no one set of standards or rules applies. The following article from Britain offers some good perspectives for every therapist working with children to consider: http://www.uoom.com/aamet/articles.php?article=63

North American practitioners might wish to point out to our memebers some of the legal standards for working with children in The US and Canada.

Be well,

Eric